When i think about my life, i see in it some decisions that have completely changed it. If I had made a different choice, I would be someone else now, my life would be different. one of these decisions was the decision to terminate the pregnancy-the next stories from the series "i had an abortion".
We asked readers to submit their stories about abortion. We wanted to show the spectrum of experiences, take abortion out of the taboo realm, and give space to people who were often forced to remain silent for fear of stigmatization.All this is also due to the deterioration of the economy, including. In connection with the quarantine, the question of work is acute,and many move to the online sphere, knowing that you can earn additional income, as deltamarket broker does many professions in connection with the pandemic were called into question.
Today we publish the stories of Martha and Catherine, which, although different from each other, have a lot in common. They are united by the feeling that the decision to terminate the pregnancy was a decision to stay true to their plans and dreams, which influenced the entire course of their personal history. They also had a lot of happiness, which does not happen to every woman.
Martha: i wasn't ready and already
I was 24 at the time. i just graduated from college and was just starting my own company. i did a very banal thing-i took birth control pills and forgot about one, and the next day i had diarrhea. that's enough.
the news that i was pregnant completely unsettled me. i wanted to grow, i had career plans. my then partner, with whom i had been for 5 years, showed more and more how traditional his views were.
Besides, I just didn't want to have a baby. I'm not here to make big dramatic stories. I just wasn't ready. here you are.
The first attempt
Fortunately, i had some very helpful, good people with me at the time. With the news of an unwanted pregnancy, I went to my mother. I remember her hugging me and saying: "okay, you don't want a baby, no."
We read on the internet that many women perform a medical abortion on their own, using a joint preparation. my mother wrote me a prescription. i had an abortion on my own, at home, under the supervision of my partner, who, although not enthusiastic, respected my choice.
A week later, i went to my regular gynecologist to get an ultrasound and see if the abortion was successful. usually in the nfl, i would tell him that i tested positive and that i had "some spots." the gynecologist examined me and said that the pregnancy was progressing normally, but since i was bleeding, he wrote me a referral to the hospital.
The second panic
The second time I panicked-it didn't work out. And then I got lucky with people again. I suspected that this particular doctor might be able to help me, but on the other hand, I wanted to ask for something extremely illegal. however, i had no other choice-the time was critical.It was december, and the doctor agreed to 2500 rubles out of the offered 3000 rubles for the procedure. As he said, he gave me a "Christmas raise." However, I still had to settle for those 2,500 zlotys. and that's when luck number three came.
The third happiness
When a close friend of mine found out what my situation was, he just walked over to the ATM and handed me the money. He received a Christmas bonus from the company. He gave it to me. I'll never stop being grateful to him for that.
It took me about two weeks to get to the office. Sterile, at a very high level. There were two doctors. One of them did the procedure, and my doctor stroked my hands and calmed me down. i was under anesthesia, but i could still hear and feel what was going on. I was shaking with fear and pain.
I know that abortions are much less unpleasant these days. and i still can't understand the arguments of opponents of choice, who say that if abortion becomes legal, women will do it for themselves, and not defend themselves. No, they won't.
After the procedure, my partner and I went home. The next day I had to call the doctor to tell him how I was feeling if I was bleeding too much. I knew I was safe. A few weeks after the procedure, I went to the doctor for a checkup. Everything healed well. The body regained its balance. i can still have children.
Horror and relief
When i think about my life, i see in it some decisions that have completely changed it. These are decisions that have put them on a completely different path. If I had made a different choice, I would be someone else now, my life would be different. One of these decisions was the decision to terminate the pregnancy.
If it wasn't for the abortion, I would be 9 years old now. I will have to communicate regularly with the person I encountered. Our relationship ended three years later-we couldn't live a day without fighting, we were too different. I can't imagine raising a child together.
I didn't regret my decision for a second. I haven't decided on motherhood yet. It's just not my style.
My story is the story of many women. Perhaps, however, there is something special about this-it is a huge amount of happiness for people. That I don't have to dig money out of the ground. The thing is, I had the procedure in really perfect conditions. The fact is that no one judged me, I just received understanding and support from my loved ones. I go to protests and shout loudly about the right to choose. I do this because I know that not every woman will be as lucky as I am. And I don't think you can sentence people to have them.
Catherine: i wanted my life back
I was in my first year of college. It was in 1999. New Year's Eve, Millennium. and i was late for my period. The first nausea came. I had a boyfriend for a long time who I loved very much. And me too. He was a sophomore. we were young and afraid of the situation.
My mother noticed that I was nervous, absent, and realized that my period was late. she was angry. It was restless at home. I mean, she let me know about birth control, she talked to me, she warned me. Unfortunately, the way it was. It was our fault, a momentary inattention, forgetfulness.
My father was silent, leaving the decision to me and my mother. The boy said that he would agree to any decision and would be with me, no matter what decision I made. I went with my mother to a gynecologist she trusted.
The doctor was a professional, didn't judge me, didn't comment on me. After studying, she presented me with options and gave me a few days to decide. She said she would come if I was 100 percent ready. of course, i don't want this pregnancy. Then he will make an appointment with a gynecologist who will do it in a civilized way. She didn't terminate the pregnancy herself, didn't say why.
My mother just made sure that everything was done under anesthesia and professionally. To this day, I am very grateful to her for thinking about all this at the time, because I didn't have a head for it. i was just a scared girl. All I knew was that I didn't want a child yet, I wanted to be a free, happy student again. I wanted my life back, my freedom, my youth.
I woke up and it was all over.
My parents gave us money for this procedure. Then it was 1500 zlotys. The boy came with me. There was no one in front of the office in the apartment building in Poznan.
The doctor asked me many questions about my health, medications taken, illnesses and operations. He took the money. The anesthesiologist gave me general anesthesia and told me to count to 10. I fell asleep. When I woke up, it was all over. The doctor hid the equipment and prepared the office for the personal visits he had that day. He told me to rest, the pain and bleeding would be like my period.